Change your inner dialogues to change your life

The Law of Attraction makes more and more sense to me. I understand more and more that thoughts create our reality. But is it easy to change what we think?

Our mind never stops thinking. Our inner dialogue carries on all day long whatever we are doing. That internal conversation never stops – making judgements, expressing opinions, planning, criticising, praising, gossiping, imagining conversations with people, imagining future experiences and revisiting old ones.

But as this is going on are we aware of it? Are we aware of what we are thinking? And if so, do we realise how it affects us?

I suspect that with most of the inner dialogue is so constant we don’t even have time to take stock of what is going on. It simply happens. The thoughts bombard our brains and rush by without us even being aware of where they came from and where they are going to - and without us understanding the power they exert over our lives, for better or for worse. The inner dialogue is the tool we use knowingly or unknowingly to communicate with the unconscious part of our brain.

These inner dialogues often are loaded with strong emotion which consequently has adverse effect on our behaviour, attitudes and beliefs. The dialogues are often repeated reinforcing the impact of the message and the emotion on the subconscious mind which can only accept and act upon what it receives.

What we have to do is listen to our internal dialogue. What is going on? Is it negative or positive? Is it loaded with negative or positive emotion? Can you see a link between what you are thinking and feeling and what you are experience in your day to day existence?

The next stage is then to take control of your thoughts …

If we can handle these two stages we can change our life. By monitoring and changing the direction and nature of our thoughts we can monitor and change the direction in which our lives take us

Start to tune in and listen to what you are thinking. If you don’t like it; change it. Use the following steps to help turn these inner dialogues to your advantage.

1) Listen to your thoughts.
What are you saying to yourself? Are you being hard on yourself? Are you dragging yourself down? If so, how does your life look to you right now? See the link? By listening to and watching your torrent of thoughts gives you a chance to see it happening from the bank rather than being swept along by the torrent.

2) Become the gatekeeper. If you don’t like what you hear stop the thought in its tracks. Replace it with a positive thought or statement. Our inner dialogues are like tapes which we play again and again. If the tape that you hear is not to your liking replace it with something more positive, enjoyable and useful.

3) Have a good talk with your self. Have a ‘question and answer’ format in the beginning.
It is important that:
• Questions must not be ambiguous.
• Seek guidance, not answers
• Seek clarity, not to set traps
Do not judge anything, but do take note of your feelings about what you are ‘hearing.’ Remember, you are listening now; do not get caught up in any defensiveness and do not allow yourself to structure any further questions. Just write exactly what you receive.
To recognize how ‘accurate’ what you receive is you can ask a simple question . Upon receiving any message, simply ask, ‘How accurate is this?’ You should very quickly receive a percentage rating.
If not, take a deep breath and ask again. As you exhale, you will recieve a percentage. Consider anything better than 90% to be generally accurate. However, the closer you are to 100%, the better. It is very important to be completely honest with these ratings. You will learn nothing useful by convincing yourself that you are communicating more clearly than you are.

4) Journal writing
As you work with your Journal, you will learn to tap this inner part of you and understand a lot more about yourself. You will be surprised how many negative or positive beliefs you have by pouring out all your inner dialogues on paper.

5) Meditation
Meditation is a means by which you can interrupt and stop the internal dialogue altogether for as long as you are meditating. Meditation gives the mind a break.
Transcendental Meditation, for example, is a method involving the repetition of a word in the form of a mantra. The effect of this repetition is to silence the thoughts.
You will find that your senses become more aware and that your mind is sharper and more perceptive without all the unneeded inner dialogue.